Resilience in conflict

What is conflict resilience?

Conflict can happen any time that there is difference and tension in a relationship or a group. It is a normal part of life. But it can sap the energy out of leaders and communities.

People who are conflict resilient have found a way to walk towards everyday conflicts without being drained or consumed by them. They are able to think creatively even when in the midst of divisions or anxiety.

Ruth's approach to coaching and training focuses on:

  • increasing the confidence of leaders to face towards conflict
  • empowering leaders to draw on their gifts and experience to address conflict
  • supporting communities as they seek to thrive in diversity.
The Revd Ruth Adams is the Bishop's Adviser for conflict and resilience. Find out more here.

Ruth can provide coaching and training in conflict resilience:

  • in dealing with anxiety around conflict - our own or other people's
  • In learning how to analyse everyday parish conflicts
  • in understanding our own response to conflict
  • in reflecting on scripture and conflict
  • in having difficult conversations
  • in handling meetings more effectively

Coaching can be one-to-one or in leadership teams and training can be with teams, PCCs or through a diocesan course offered each year.

The Diocesan Resilience in Conflict training for Clergy is spread over three days, which are a month apart. Attendance is required for all three days. Dates for 2016:

Friday 8 January

Friday 5 February

Friday 4 March

9:30am to 4:00pm in the boardroom at the Diocesan Office, with lunch provided.

A second course aimed at Lay Leaders will take place on 16th January, 20th February and 19th March

For more information about these courses or opportunities for personal coaching or

work with ministry teams and PCCs please email

'[This coaching] has really encouraged me and transformed my approach to conflict within the life of our church…I feel empowered to face difficult people and conversations and reach a conclusion which is beneficial for all.'

'It was good to share conflict situations with others, both to get a different perspective on them and to find new tools and ways to respond. And by the time we had turned one situation into role play I was able to see a ludicrous side which took the sting out of the pain I'd been feeling.'